Your Goals Might Be Keeping You From Being Successful
Everyone is setting goals these days. Money goals. Fitness goals. Relationship goals. Business goals. There are all kinds of books and courses on goals. You can go to whole seminars on goals. Even people who aren’t into self development will still set a new years resolution or write out a “To do” list. The question is, "What if your goals are actually the reason you're not getting what you want?"
Where people go wrong is they think goals are to get. They set a goal of getting a certain amount of money, a promotion, a house, or a certain amount of clients in their business. But the truth is that goals are not about getting they are about who you become in the process - they are for you to grow!
Look at nature. It’s growing. All the plants and animals are growing. It is built into us to need to grow and expand. If something isn’t growing, it’s dying. There is no standing still. So anyone that is depressed, feeling bad, unhappy, sad, or in the low vibration states are in that way of being because they aren’t growing.
Having a goal beyond what we have currently achieved or experienced gives us cause to grow and expand. That growth fulfills that need that’s built in everyone of us - the need to become more. That is beautiful and natural.
When goals hinder you
What happens for many people is they get introduced to goal setting, manifestation, self development or whatever and wake up a bit to the idea of having and being more. So they follow instruction and set some goals. These goals may often be given by someone else or taken on by suggestion rather than coming from within the individual. It doesn’t come from inspiration. This is the first mistake. They hear that someone has set their goal to turn their yearly income into their monthly income and say, “that sounds good to me” and make it their goal.
Having a goal, even if it’s not inspired, is still better than having no goals. At least it gets you searching, stretching, and the desire muscles working. The process can just be a lot more enjoyable and easy when we start from inspiration and calling.
The next major reason goals will hinder you is when they make you feel bad. You set your goal and then feel bad that you don’t have it yet. You get impatient because you think it’s taking too long. You doubt yourself that you can do it or that it’s possible for you. You believe you’re not worthy of it. All kinds of crazy stuff.
If you read my last blog post “5 steps to manifesting whatever you desire” you’ll know that the feeling we are in is incredibly important. You are keeping your goal away from you when you feel bad about it. If you’re feeling the lack of your goal which includes feelings of frustration, impatience, doubt, fear, disbelief, hope, wish, unworthiness, or any other low vibe feeling then you are not on the same frequency as your goal and therefore you continue to attract “Not your goal.” You attract more lack of your goal. You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. Remember: whatever qualities you think having your goal will give you are the very qualities you must develop and feel in order to manifest the goal.
You see how people completely miss this and wonder why they can never achieve their goals?!
What to do next
If you are someone who has a goal, or multiple goals that make you feel bad, then you have two options. Either you have to grow in your awareness and understanding so that you can feel good about the goal. This involves growing your mental muscles, understanding how to bring the future into the present moment, how to use your imagination, how to be in control of your emotions and so forth.
OR
You have to take your attention off the goal and onto something that makes you feel good. We can get so much resistance and negative emotions wrapped up in our goal because of not achieving it for so long, or from countless rejections, spending lots of money without results or any number of things. There are so many negative feelings and experiences that you associate with your goal that you may very well be better off setting it aside for a while.
This goes against what seems logical to most. You’d think that if you want to achieve something then you have to keep forcing yourself forward. Grind! Work hard! Sadly this is the common teaching of the goal-setting and results-getting teachings but it is a long slow road with little joy.
The number one priority for you to get what you want is for you to feel good. If the goal makes you feel bad, simply taking your attention from it and putting it on what makes you feel good, will bring you closer to your goal. Your goal is on a higher vibration. If the goal is to double your income and you perceive having this higher income will make you happy, secure, empowered, grateful, and relieved then that is the frequency that goal is on for you. Too manifest the goal you have to be on that frequency of happiness, security, empowerment, gratefulness, and relief. Well…feeling frustrated, doubtful, impatient and sad are not the frequency of the goal. So how can you attract what you need and manifest your goal when you aren’t on the same frequency as it? You’ll get nowhere.
So is your goal helping you or hindering you? Do you need to get in control of your emotions and live as if the goal is fulfilled or are you so far gone that you need to take your attention off your goal for a while?
If your goal excites you and makes you feel good when you think about it, then keep going. You’re on the right track!
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